Hate and love cannot exist in your heart at the same time – you have to choose
Fear or trust – you have to choose
Judgement or empathy – you have to choose
Dominance (control) or acceptance – you have to choose
You cannot live in the light if you feed or accept the dark energies
Peace and love belong in the same room giving us prosperity and harmony but neither will be achieved with war (which comes from hate and fear) looming constantly over our heads from those who do not take responsibility for their choices or actions – the need to dominate and control destroys harmony and balance. We have to choose…..
One cannot heal their souls, their heart, if they continue to blame others for where they are. We have to choose to rise above the need to remain a victim – be responsible for how we choose to move forward.
Although there are many individuals responsible for the abuse done to me, it has become my decision to stop blaming them for my choices now. I’ve also had to stop blaming myself for behaviour which comes from severe trauma and how the PTSD affects me.
For me, this acceptance did not come until there was realization they, for many reasons, would never be held accountable, and I could not prevent certain behaviour of mine from reactions to so many triggers. This made me feel trapped, like I was sinking into an abyss where light would never find me. Only when I understood this emptiness was exactly where they wanted me to be stuck, could the decision to change my perspective be made. The difficult part was learning how to pull out of fight or flight as gracefully as possible with acceptance of what happened and why.
Each of my choices became a string of lessons teaching me to think differently about how I want to live now. It became obvious there was something good and often beautiful in each lesson despite the difficulty. I just had to look for it. Finding the beautiful aspect of each lesson encouraged me to step further away from the trap of blame. Blaming keeps us in victim mode where we cannot grow or find peace.
We are on our path making decisions we must take responsibility for.
Choices are lessons, both good and bad although we tend to throw a spotlight on those which cause us trouble, dwelling on our misfortunes rather than being grateful for those which carried us through.
If there are no difficult lessons, we become complacent, expectant, entitled. My experiences are shared with hope they will encourage others to keep taking another step out of the victim bubble, towards freedom. We are always exactly where we are meant to be.
My thoughts have been coming from a place of contemplation as stories come out of Cuba.
Cuba has shown its resilience, strength, diversity, ingenuity and humanity over and over and over again. No matter how over so many years, the US government has tried to destroy their spirit, the people of Cuba rise to the challenge and find the light from their difficult choices. The Cubans fighting for their right to exist on a level playing field are an inspiration to me as I think back on my life and see how so many times I wanted to give in and stop trying. Instead as I write this post, the importance of taking another step without regret or self pity becomes clear. Failure comes from not trying.
My life has taught me the lessons will find me despite my trying to avoid them. Actually, especially if I try to avoid them! 🫣😏🤔 Therefore there are no wrong choices, only wrong intentions to avoid being where I’m supposed to be. Acceptance and the willingness to learn why we are where we don’t want to be, is what moves us forward and away from what we least want in our lives.
I’m working everyday in my thoughts to move away from fear and into trust. It is a constant effort and although it may sound as if I see it as an easy accomplishment to walk away from being a victim, it really is not. It is most satisfying though to feel the freedom it brings…..
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